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It is sad to
see members leave due to personalities. It
makes no difference if it is a face to face
or email group. I watch and had even
participated in the demise of a group due to
personalities. I left a group because one
person had a personality... Was I right to do
this. What of all the ones who depended on
that group. Tell it like it is. I bailed
because my personality did not agree with the
other's... Here we have had a he/she is wrong
I'm right situation, that ended in a she said
he said they said. I've read some of the post
that said we need to get back to sharing. I
agree. I read where members here said it is
enough... I agree. But through all of this I
have seen something that has helped me to
come to terms with something that has cost me
a great deal in my life.
"Step
one: We admitted we were powerless over
alcohol - that our lives had become
unmanageable."
I am powerless
over much more then just alcohol and there
are many ways that can make my life
unmanageable. I will not go into a full list
because it will take a long time and cost too
much in bandwidth then it is worth. But I
will go into one here in detail, as it is the
one other then alcohol that has caused me the
most problems, and cost me the most. It cost
me my last relationship of two years, it was
making all the other things happening all the
more difficult to cope with, to her I can
apologize for my part in it because she is
still among us... It cost me happiness for
over 15 years and chance to understand the
family that I had, sadly last week one of
that family died and I lost the opportunity
to apologize in person. It came close to
costing my current relationship, and it may
yet, if I do not learn the lesson and do
something about it... It has made life
miserable for me for more years then I can
count. I hope that it is not to late for me
to start over again...
My name is
Dave. And I am an alcoholic, who can not
admit when he is wrong...
I am not
saying that I am always wrong, but if I
believe that I am right I will not let go and
follow it to any length to prove I am right.
I did this with my ex, which help to make any
bad situation worse. I did it with my adopted
mother and father, and it made life hard on
all of us. I was doing this with my present
companion and it almost droves us apart, the
jury is still out on this one. Does it make
me more right if I make the other person or
people say I am right, do I have to force the
other person to see my rightness. Because a
person disagrees with me does not mean my
life will end, it is just that a
disagreement. If I am truly right the other
person will eventually see that, but it will
come in his time, and come easier if I do it
by example, I must release this need to do
battle to defend my opinions. The ongoing
debate on faiths and religions has been going
on for centuries, and often have a more
terminal form then you will see in this list.
And will possibly go on for as many more.
I learned a
very important lesson from all this that I
need to adopt into my life. The concept of.
Principles
before personalities....
...GrayWolf