Are you
deferring to someone in your life? When we
relinquish control of our lives to someone
else, we also relinquish responsibility for
our happiness, our well being, our joy, our
growth, and our choices.
It's healthy
and normal to want to be nurtured. A partner
can make our lives easier, take some of the
load off. We are sent helpers, friends, and
lovers. The arm of love reaches out through
people, through our loved ones, to bring us
the support we need. Opening to and receiving
that support are essential to well being, to
joy, to happiness. But there's a difference
between receiving help and support and being
controlled. There's a difference between
surrendering to love and surrendering to
control.
Relinquishing
control can happen subtly, but its effects
are powerful. We begin to believe we've lost
our freedom. We begin to believe that someone
has taken it away. We feel stifled,
repressed.
Don't make
other people responsible for delineating your
boundaries. It's your job to take
responsibility for your choices, your
comings, your goings, your well being, your
path. If you feel you've relinquished your
power, your freedom, take it back. Take
responsibility for yourself. You don't have
to defer to anyone. The times of being
controlled are past. You can accept nurturing
without being manipulated. You can accept
love without being controlled.
Set yourself
free. Love exists only where freedom exists.
Create relationships that are equal. There
you will find love.
